By-Laws and Board Members


UPDATED 12/1/2020 / To read the Wisconsin Fathers for Children and Families By-Laws, please                                      click   here.


                              CURRENT 2022 WFCF BOARD MEMBERS:


Tony Bickel (Dane County) President since 2016/Database Mgr/Treasurer /Helpline responder - Biography

Tony Bickel, President, 2016I’ve been a member of WFCF since 1999.  I starting attending board meetings in 2002/2003, and was an active participant and volunteer during our WFCF Rally in 2004.  In 2014 I joined the board as treasurer and currently still fill that role.  During 2014, I was able to also convert our database to a more current software package and now I maintain our main database.   As database administrator I send out all electronic communications we do, including the reminders/invites for the 10 (ten) CO PARENTS Night Out meetings each month.


In 1997 my 14 year marriage ended.  I have 2 daughters that were 9/11 years old at that time, and I secured placement with my daughters 45% of the time.  At that time I was unaware of WFCF, but thanks to the internet I was luckily able to immediately determine my rights and exercise them without the assistance of an attorney.  Becoming the primary care giver 45% of the time was a change for me, but one that I embraced wholeheartedly right from the start.  The benefit of that placement situation was absolutely beneficial to my daughters and me.


By 1999 I had come into contact with a great number of fathers that had not enjoyed the relationship and time with their children that I had with mine. While I had to fight at times to have my rights enforced, I became aware of other fathers plights that were much worse than mine.  So I joined WFCF in 1999, and later became an active member to help other fathers.

I am currently happily married to Vicki (2011) and added a five year old adopted daughter to my family, joining my other daughters who are now 33 and 35 years old, and a granddaughter!.  After 30 plus years working for an analytical instrument manufacturer, I semi retired in 2012 and consulted for the company for another 10 years until finally totally retiring.

Mary Ciano  (LaCrosse) Facebook and Social Media Manager - Biography

Mary CianoI am a special education teacher with multiple teaching certifications and a Master's Degree in Special Education from University of Wisconsin - La Crosse. I have always been interested in child development and psychology of human behavior which has led me to work with students and their families who need behavior management within their school day. I have been on many facets of this multi-faceted issue of equal parenting. Previously, I have been summoned and looked to as a teacher for the best interest of my students. However, more recently in my own situation, I am now working towards a goal of shared parenting alongside my husband Anthony, for his two son’s ages 9 and 6 of a previous relationship. We have been married for almost two years of our 5 year relationship and have an 8 month old daughter together. There have been ups and downs with having step-children, but what I do know is that I love them like they are my own. We have been saddened that the "system" does not give a fair chance or a proper representation of fathers through due process. Fathers are guilty until proven innocent. It has been heartbreaking that overnight we have gone from a happy, blended family, reduced to only my husband, our daughter and myself. The professionals involved fail to see signs of parental alienation or that the "buying" of love is winning out when these very young boys are allowed to choose where they want to go. My husband and I have experience using pro se advice, representing ourselves, and we have learned what makes a good attorney for our case. We also have experience working with psychologists and psychological evaluations, custody assessment teams, GAL’s, social workers and the reunification process. Unfortunately, our experiences with the system has been a nightmare. Through this, we have been motivated to initiate the La Crosse Area Father's Night Out so that we can get in touch with other fathers, families and supporters of father's rights in the La Crosse and surrounding areas. We are here to help you!

Alan Frey (Fox Valley) Legislative Liaison - Biography

Alan Frey

Jonathan Koch (Madison) Board member-Legislative/Child Support liason/Helpline responder   - Biography

Kevin MonahanLike many fathers with first hand experience in family courts I fely my children were remarkably poorly served.  One of the most eye-opening experiences of my life was realizing how much worse the system was for many families.


My primary interest are reforming the system through the democratic system that American's are blessed with.  But I remain fascinated by the personal stories of those entangled in family courts.

I am a graduate of the MIT, and I currently work as a software engineer for a medical device company.  I live in Madison, WI with my three children and we enjoy shared parenting together.


 Rick Frazer (Brown County) FNO Manager/ VP - Biography

Rick FrazerI grew up in Escanaba in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula. I had the opportunity to spend a lot of time with my dad growing up as he owned and maintained an apartment building and my mom worked as a Magistrate. I spent a lot of time watching and helping him fix cars, weld, plumbing, wiring, and building stuff. While it wasn’t all work, we managed to hunt, fish, go to camp and have fun along with my brother and sister. When I felt it was time to settle down, I specifically sought out a single mom, as I always wanted to have a family and be a father. I felt had something to offer and something to gain from joining a fatherless family and was right.

It was a wonderful and rewarding family life, with normal family issues and challenges of forming a blended family. Despite the ending of my marriage in 2015, I was blessed with adopting my sons (her two boys now 27 and 25) from her previous marriage when they were 8 and 10 years old, and having my daughter together, now 16.

At the time my ex-wife filed for divorce, I was granted 50/50 custody and she was awarded placement until the GAL and counselors determine the best placement schedule for my daughter. After 627 days at the time of writing, I saw my daughter for a total of 5 hours with counselors and GALs. I missed her entire freshman year and soon sophomore year of high school because she has negative feelings toward me since the divorce, as do my boys, from a variety of reasons. I am now preparing to return to court to get a placement schedule that works for my daughter, that includes me in her life. Early on in my plight, I sought support and resources to help me and found the WFCF.

I attended a Father’s Night Out in Madison and worked with the groups leadership to form a group in the Fox Valley area (Green Bay to Fond du Lac) which meets in Appleton. I have heard a lot of tough stories and the group has both participants there to support others and fathers seeking support. It has been a very rewarding experience which is why I accepted a board position to help expand FNO and make it even more beneficial as a part of WFCF. I am involved with other related activities to support our cause. I am a contributor to the legislation to promote equal placement which is gaining some traction. I have been a leader in the Boy Scouts of America for 16 years and a participant in the Fox Valley Voice of Men organization. As one of the WFCF Board members, I welcome all suggestions and comments to make our group vibrant and effective for both fathers and mothers in supporting “The best parent is BOTH parents”.


John Rindfleisch  (Fox Valley area) Board Member  - Biography

I grew up in Wisconsin in the small town of Spencer. There I grew up on a small farm with my two brothers. After High School I attended college in Chicago and Los Angeles. While in California I worked for the County of Los Angeles. I now enjoy working in Information Technology for one of the Wisconsin’s top privately owned businesses in Appleton. I enjoy being outdoors golfing, hiking. Love High Cliff State Park and the trails around Appleton, Green Bay and Oshkosh. I have two sons. Oldest is in college and the youngest in high school. I joined Wisconsin Fathers in 2007 while going through divorce. Soon after petitioning, the divorce became very toxic. I did what I could to shield my two sons from the negativity of it all. I was amazed by the support I received from Wisconsin Fathers and they guided me through a difficult process. I also received overwhelmingly amount of support from my church and my family who sustained me through difficult times. The first temporary custody order was joint custody of my two sons (then 4 and 7) with primary placement to their mom. In 2013 (6 years later) a change in placement was made for me to receive primary placement. My sons now (16 and 18) live with me nearly full time. I am happy and grateful for WI legislators that are moving in positive direction for our kids. There is still a lot of work to do. Some divorced parents are really struggling with anytime with their kids. It is really sad to know that there are third party agencies encouraging one parent to disenfranchise children from the other . Some stories just break my heart. That is why I am involved. Take time to thank your kids for all they do. Even if all they do is run around the house breaking things. Tell them you are proud of them. Do not yell or become physically intense with your kids or anyone else. No matter what happens, do your best to stay cool, calm, and collected at all times. I encourage you to use your Employee Assistance Programs at your job to get your concerns documented by a professional. Or go seek parenting or divorce classes to be involved with others as you go through a difficult time.

Linda Conrad

Aaron Bradt

Nick DeStefanis



Past board members

- Peter Kerr (Ozaukee County) - Biography  Peter has been a member of WFCF for 8 years and has been an activist in the area of Family Law Reform. Peter's daughter who was born in Australia, as he was, received the standard cookie cutter treatment from the Wisconsin Courts of "Every second weekend and one night through the week". Considering there was only one reason Peter remained in (to him) a foreign country, was to be a Father to his child, he was flabbergasted to learn that Fathers were treated in such an unfair, disrespectful and unequal fashion, which simply astonded him, not to mention his experience of the type of damage that can be done to a child when one parent is given a superior parenting position over the other parent. (Australia has the Equal Shared Parental Responsibility Act) 

As a child - like so many other children - Peter was subjected to the "able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, faster than a speeding bullet...Truth, Justice and the American Way" belief, only to find out, when it comes to the Family Courts and Fatherhood in America - it was all a lie.

In 2006, with the support of Wisconsin Fathers for Children and Familes and the Milwaukee Fatherhood Collaborative, Peter walked 800 miles across Wisconsin taking the issue of Fatherlessness and Equal Parenting to the court of public opinion. His journey can be seen at Walk For Children. (Unknown to him at the time, in 2006 Peter was awarded the presigoius "Outstanding Father" award from the Mayor of Milwaukee sponsored Milwaukee Fatherhood Initiative).

Peter continually gives testimony to Wisconsin legislative hearings and visits many of our elected politicains in support of Family Law Reform.

He believes this year is the year of change and to quote him "Equal parenting will happen, the only variable is when!"

- Mike Landwehr (Waukesha County) - Biography  I have three brothers and was raised on a veal farm in the DePere area. In 1983 I graduated from West DePere High School and in 1988 I graduated from UW-Milwaukee with a BS in Industrial & Systems Engineering.

At age 25 I was married to my first wife and we had our first child, Natalia three years later.  Our other daughter, Elise was born four years later.  During this period I worked in various engineering and managerial positions for Wisconsin Tissue, Medical Advances, Fotodyne, and Menasha Corporation.  In 1999 I petitioned for divorce. Because my job at the time took me out of town two to three overnights a week, I stipulated to a placement schedule which provided me with only 29% of the nights with my daughters. 

During the divorce proceedings, I notified my soon-to-be-ex that I would be leaving my job to start my own business in order give me more time flexibility and make myself more available for the kids.

In 2000 I founded our company along with two partners and an investor. My previous employer quickly became one of our largest customers.  However, the events of September 11th and economic recession significantly affected our fledgling company.  As a result, my income was about half of what it had been when I was divorced. 

My current wife (and business partner) Brenda and I were married in 2002.  Later that year I filed a motion seeking equal placement and a reduction in child support, factored on the income my new company was able to pay me. After a year-long legal battle and several thousand in legal fees, my placement was increased to 31% and my child support was unchanged.

This order was despite the fact that the GAL recommended significantly more placement time with me, and the court found that I was not shirking in regards to my income.  Completely dissatisfied with this outcome, I sought help from others with similar circumstances and found WFCF.

I began working with the group on organizing the 2004 rally in Madison. In 2005, I joined the WFCF board as the Legislative Committee chairperson and have since spent much time focused on getting legislation passed which would ensure a level playing field between responsible fathers and mothers. 

I appealed the family court order, and after another 1-1/2 years and thousands more in legal fees, I lost again.  Even though I had an even greater amount of frustration, friends convinced that my case would be appropriate to heard by the Wisconsin Supreme Court and hopefully establish maximized placement case law for many fathers across the state with similar circumstances.

With the assistance from numerous WFCF members my case was prepared, accepted, heard, and finally decided.  Once again I (and fathers in general) lost.  The court had bought into the ridiculous argument that the statute’s directive of “maximized placement” really means maximized within the placement allocation that a parent is given. 

If any positive came out of the Supreme Court decision, it’s that it can be shown to legislators so that they better understand why ambiguity must be minimized and court discretion must be limited when crafting new family laws.  I strongly believe that failure to do so will only result in the status quo of denying fathers their right to be an equal parent to their children. 

In 2008 I was elected to the WFCF Treasurer’s role and also became an ALL-DADS helpline counselor.  Since then I successfully got my case moved from Milwaukee County to Waukesha County. There (a much more father-friendly environment) I subsequently got my placement time increased to 36%, my ex-wife’s income imputed to a reasonable level and my child support adjusted accordingly.

Tom Pfeiffer (Dane County) Tom has been a member of WFCF since about 1997 and has served on the WFCF Board 1999-2013. He first heard of WFCF when a counselor wondered whether he was associated with that “mad dads group”, which stirred his interest and led him to join WFCF. As a father of three young children at the time and having recently gone through a heart wrenching separation. What a surprise to learn that in this bastion of “liberal thinking” fathers were considered to be second class citizens when it came to valuing them as parents. He was involved in their births, all medical visits, schools, activities and nearly all of his free time was spent with these kids.  Tom served on the Special Legislative Committee Studying the Roles of Guardians ad Litem as a WFCF representative. He also conducted a poll of all legislators and those running for office to gauge their support for issues of importance to divorced fathers. Tom served on the Board of WFCF as Secretary and Executive Vice President. He has testified many times before committees of the legislature, has served as a counselor to our “AllDads” help line for many years, contributes to our newsletter, coordinates the Madison area Fathers Night Out meetings. Tom grew up “out east” in a large close knit family of seven children with two involved parents who set many good examples, just the way parents should. It was always apparent to him that the influences of both parents are crucial to the proper development of children. Why the state does not see this truism remains a puzzle and an obstacle we must overcome. Tom has a bachelor’s degree in psychology and a master’s in education. He worked twenty years in the University of Wisconsin System and now works as an independent financial advisor since the late 1990’s. Tom is a strong believer in the WFCF motto that “The Best Parent is Both Parents!”

Robert W. Moore (Dane County)< – Bob joined WFCF (then known as Wisconsin Fathers for Equal Justice) in 1991, and has served as Vice-President for Membership 1996-2012. He maintained the primary WFCF database, prepared address files for all mailings, sent all membership renewal requests, and assists with other projects. Together with Tom Pfeiffer, Bob hosts the monthly Madison area Fathers’ Night Out dinners. Bob has three children, all now adults.  Bob has a B.S. in Biochemistry from Penn State University, a Ph.D. in Biochemistry from Michigan State University, and postdoctoral training in Pathobiology and Environmental Toxicology from the University of Wisconsin. Dr. Moore is a Senior Scientist at the University of Wisconsin, and a member of the Society of Toxicology and of The Endocrine Society. He has served on US government panels, and is known internationally for his research on endocrine disrupting chemicals, particularly how exposure to dioxin early in development affects prostate development

- Devin Gatton (2017)

President (title) at Log Cabin Republicans of Wisconsin

Former State Campaign Director at Gary Johnson 2016

Studied Religious history at University of Wisconsin Milwaukee.

Lives in West Allis, Wisconsin       Married    From Honolulu, Hawaii

- Kevin Monahan ( Fox Valley) I have been attending the Fox Valley Father’s Night Out, event since the summer of 2015 and have progressively became more involved in the organization. The mission of this organization is near and dear to my heart as I have had an unfortunate experience in dealing with the Wisconsin Family Court System. With the exception of about a 5 month period my entire post high school years have been spent working in various aspects of the EMS (Emergency Medical Services) Industry with the majority of that time spent working in the business office end where I have spent the last 11+ years. I am also a former EMT, and Emergency Medical Dispatcher. I met my first wife and mother of my daughter the summer after graduating 8th grade through the Fire Department Explorer Post, we became best friends and were only friends for the first 6 years we knew each other, before beginning a relationship that moved very quickly we were engaged 3 months in, and married 5 months later. In February 2008, we welcomed our daughter Madelyn. We went through the same ups and downs that most couples go through in life, when the opportunity arose to relocate our family to Central Wisconsin we seized the opportunity viewing it as a fresh start for our family. Well as it turned out the move resulted in a life changing fresh start, one that neither of us ever would have expected as I ended up petitioning for divorce 6 months after moving to Wisconsin Our divorce took 1 year to finalize, included a temporary order, a Guardian ad Litem evaluation and recommendation, 11th hour mediation. We share joint custody, and shared placement we had equal 50/50 placement until my ex relocated. Our case went back to court and back through the Guardian ad Litem for an updated review and recommendation on placement now that there was nearly a 150-mile difference between our two residences, placement was modified our daughter now spends 67% of the time with her mom and 33% of the time with me and her stepmom. It is my plan to dedicate time to helping advance the initiatives of the WFCF and focus on our motto that the “Best Parent is Both Parents”. I couldn’t agree more with that motto, and believe we need to work to set aside the biases that exist in the family court system. Unless there is evidence proving some type of neglect or abuse I don’t believe there is such a thing as a bad parent, or even a better parent we are all individuals and are all different and those differences are what make us unique and what our kid(s) learn from, that help form the person they become. We have to remember just because we don’t like or don’t agree with something the other parent says or does that doesn’t make them any less of a parent or less important to your child(ren).

Chuck George  (Fox Valley area) Board Member  - Biography

I have been attending Fathers night out starting in the summer of 2015. My 23 year old marriage ended in December of 2013. With my divorce final in April 2015. I have two children. A daughter that is 18. I have not seen her in over three years. Not by my choice either. I also have a son 15 and he is with me 45% of the time. I work at Theda Care Regional Hospital in Neenah. I have been working there as a cook for seven years now. I was also on the Little Chute School Board for 6 years as well. I want to think that we can make a difference so that children can have both parents in there life. Studies have shown that this is important. Dads are to be part of there childrens life. So who is going to stand up with me and say I am. I am the Dad that will be the leader for my children life

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